Living Life

Laugh about your mistakes,
But, learn from them.

Joke over your troubles,
But, gather strength from them.

Have fun with your difficulties,
But, overcome them.

That's the way to live LIFE.

Smile

When a person is seen always smiling, many feel that he has no problems.
And they confront him saying that you smile because you have no problems or else you wouldn't be smiling like this. I have so many worries and thats the reason I don't smile is their explanation for being morose or moody.
For all those people who think like this this is what I have to say..

"The person who is always smiling doesn't mean that he has no problems...
But the smile shows that he has ability to overcome all those problems..."

Tough Times

Tough times are the heartbreaking times of all. The time seems to run slowly than usual and everyday becomes the longest day of life. You feel like seeing far into the future but nothing is visible.

Depression and frustration sets in. The smile and glow that always used to be on your face vanishes, and people around you start to feel the difference in your behaviour. You constantly think of the worst and the more you think, your thoughts become worse. The road ahead of you looks dark, gloomy and deserted.

Tough Times comes into everyones life at one point of time, so it isn't in our best interests to depress ourselves and let that depression affect others around us. Even the mighty Pandavas had to endure tough times. Not even Lord Krishna was able to save them from these horrible times, although he was with them from the beginning till the end. If you observe closely you will find that Arjuna did not sit idle and kept worrying about the future, instead he learnt new skills and acquired divyastras from Indra, Shiva & others would help him in the oncoming war. What we can learn from this is praying god will not make your bad time go away, god will surely be with you during those times and help you come out of it, most importantly one should not sit idle and waste time by worrying about the present but work to acquire new skills like arjuna did that would help him in the future.

Everyone feels alone & deserted during bad times. But krishna says,  "Everyone is alone in this world, fighting his own private battle"

So all you people having tough times remember: "Tough times vanishes, Tough men don't".

Commitment v/s Compromise

Commitment is hard.

Compromise is easy.

Commitment means sticking to your guns no matter what.

Compromise means flowing with the wind which ever way it blows.

Commitment  is  doing  what  is  right  no  matter what people say.

Compromise is doing what people say as long as it isn’t too awfully bad.

Commitment is deciding, “I will never do wrong.”

Compromise is waffling, “Well, just this once.”

Commitment is saying “Yes.”

Compromise is saying, “Yes, but ...” 

Commitment is hard.

Compromise is easy.

Develop an Attitude for Success

I found this great article written by 

MARY JO MANZANARES on November 10th, 2006 

So thought of adding it to my blog

How we deal with misfortune can make the difference between defeat and victory in our lives.

We’ve all heard stories about Thomas Edison.  He went through thousands of unsuccessful attempts before coming up with the filament light bulb.  When his factory was virtually destroyed by fire, he simply remarked that the disaster provided him with new opportunities to start again, and weeks later he invented the phonograph.

How many of us, when faced with misfortune, have that same outlook as Edison?  We view these misfortunes as failures.  We must learn, however, that these failures, properly handled, lead to great personal growth and professional success.

Here are some are six attitudes that you can adopt that will help you claim victory in your life:

Never Give Up.  If Edison’s experiences don’t convince us to never give up, I’m not sure what will.  There are countless other examples where a failure turned into an opportunity to, as Henry Ford said, “begin again more intelligently.”

Live in the Present.  Keeping a focus on the present and future, rather than dwelling in the past, helps us avoid the quagmire of regrets.  We must never lose our vision for other possibilities in our life.

Accept the Challenge.  Don’t wallow in defeat, instead we must renew our efforts to succeed and do even greater things.  In difficult times, we frequently learn just how much drive we have inside of us, challenging us to set our goals higher still.

Banish the Word Failure.  The word is full of emotional baggage and negative connotations.  We must choose to think of it as a temporary setback, a time for adjustment, or some other emotionally neutral word.  We must not give away our personal power to a word.

Continue to Learn.  It’s the only way we grow.  If we don’t learn from the past we are destined to repeat it.

We Can Succeed.  Failure isn’t fatal.  We can learn from and overcome our setbacks, growing wiser and stronger along the way.  It’s been said often enough, but it’s still true, we can turn tragedy into triumph.

http://www.leadershipturn.com/develop-an-attitude-for-success/

Manager - How Not To Be

As soon we hear that word "Manager", the first thing that comes to our mind is a person who gives orders, ask others to work, dictate others etc and may be thats the reason many of us want to become managers, cos all of us want to dictate, none of us like to take orders. However, is that what a manager really is? A person who gives orders and asks others to work. Well for many of us the answer is "yes". Anyways none of us wants to be spoken ill about nor would like to hear anyone speaking bad about us. All of us as managers want to be praised and looked upon as an ideal. There are lots of books available in the market that teaches about how to become an effective manager, how to be a productive and a lovable manager and many more. But according to me its far more important to learn and get trained on how not to be manager than how to be.

5 Qualities a manager should not posses:

1. Show Attitude
Many manager's suffer from this feeling of bossism and that they are here to command the employees.The feeling of insecurity inside them make them more bossy. They somehow feel that if they donot show attitude or boss over his/her subordinates the subordinates are not going to listen to them. But they miss the fact that showing attitude does a reverse affect on them, which they fail to notice. Althought the employees do the work assigned to them by their manager, whether he/her shows attitude or not, the manager loses the Good will. The subordinates start disliking him/her.

2. Never look upon on your subordinates
This is second most important thing that one manager should always keep in mind when speaking to his/her reportees. He/she may not have done well the last time but that doesn't make the employee a bad one. After all he has been selected and assigned the process by the recruiters only after thoroughly interviewing him/her. It is normal for humans to do mistakes, but its the responsibility of a good manager to sit together with the employee and retrospect and try to see what went wrong and why did this happen. If necessary the mistake must be shared among others during team meetings without revealing the name of the person who committed it,such that it never happens again. But please "Donot look down on them just because they made a silly mistake and make them feel that they are good for nothing".

3. Donot pass any sarcastic comments over your subordinates and Donot group up with other managers and leaders and ridicule your assosciates ( this is seen more among the young managers)
Another major thing seen primarily among young managers are that they take their assosciates for granted and just to show them off before their assosciates they tend to make comments over their subordinates during team meetings and team hurdles. This does no good for the manager, infact it does more bad and no good at all. If they feel that he will be taken to be as a jovial and friendly manager then they are wrong. Although it may feel to the managers at that moment because the employees also join the laugh with him/her. But dont you get fooled, they laugh not because, they liked it, its because they are left with no other options. You are just increasing the hatered for you among them and believe me they are never gonna forget the comments that you made on them although it is quite obvious that you are not gonna remember them. And when they hit back its gonna be real hard.

4. Don't tell your subordinates that he doesn't expect anything great from them
A good manager must always be optimisitc and he must install that optimism in his subordinates. It might be that your previous team haven't performed well or might be that you may not have had the right people for the right job. But one should not look with the same eye everytime. Donot tell you new joinees or your new team that you have never had a great team or your previous team never functioned well and hence I dont expect much from you guys either. If the previous team has not functioned properly or according to the function required its the managers fault and not the employees. Its what the manager is paid for, to make the team function properly and effectively. If you cannot do that then the problem is with you and its you who needs to change.

5. Donot expect new joinees to become perfect in a single day
All the managers are in a hurry to get the new joinees trained fast and make them productive and their hurry is justified as they have commitments to keep, but donot take it too far. Donot expect them to be perfect with the process and tools in a single day of training. Train the employees, and give them time to come up the learning curve. Think of the time that you had taken to learn the process. Make a note of mistakes that new joinees commonly make and teach them that so that they donot do it. Be innovative in training.

Importantly
Donot laugh at your subordinates when they do something wrong, its not gonna help you in anyway, instead smile at them, clap them, pat them when they do something right. And this is surely gonna help you.

Hope this helps new budding managers.

To learn how to become a great manager read the book "The One Minute Manager". Its really a nice one and will definitely help the new budding as well as old managers.

If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and achieve more, then you are a LEADER.

What BPO industry has brought to India ?

Suddenly there was a huge requirement for english speaking graduates in the country. Massive recruitments started, only qualifiction that needed was to be able to communicate in english effectively , no other knowledge was neccessary. Huge packages were given to lure the crowd and many even got opportunities to fly abroad for training. If you could talk in english without your MTI (Mother tongue Influence) that was enough to land into a BPO sector. Many new big and small training centers started that taught Indians how to speak english in an accent, what they called a 'Neutral Accent'. This came as a huge opportunity to thousands of young, talented unemployed graduates. Their dreams for working for multi-national companies was standing before them. This was huge turning point for India which changed some parts and some section of people in India completely.

Indians started working for multi-national companies, got adjusted to their timings (night shifts). India started becoming popular around the world as one of the largest service oriented nation.
Huge money started flowing into the country. Stock markets boomed, young Indians who could never have dreamt about the amount of money started taking home that amount as their salaries. Huge malls, showrooms started blooming to fuel the needs for these young indians. Automobile industry started growing. A family that had just a scooter now had two motor-bikes and a car. Many started feeling that India has started to shine.

There was a rush to get into these industry, mainly because it offered good salary, home pick up and drop which was something unheard of before, status in the society, and working in an magnificient environment. These multi national companies had built up a huge palacious office environments which looked like resorts and every Indian aspired working for one. Before a student was out of the college their packages and job was being fixed at the campuses. So the student had no worry of job and need not had to hunt for a job after he completed his studies. It was like heaven. The company used to train you and then put them in some process depending on their requirements.

However all was not good. The smoking and drinking went up. They had lots of money in their hand which they didn't know whether they were eligible to have. Loyalty and sincerity had become words of distant past. People started jumping job cause the other companies offered them higher packages. The situation became like there was huge employment but the problem was unemployability. Land rates boomed up. Only people working in those organisation could only afford buying houses. Yet there was a large amount of population that was not an english speaking crowd. These industry did do one more good, it provided secondary employment too, like employements for the cab drivers, the bandi walas etc.

But what this did bpo industry actually do to India ? Did it really made India grow ? Did it provide employment ? Did it or Will it do good to the country ?
The answer surely would be "Yes" on the first go. However, if I say "No", its not so. Why is it not like that, would be your instant question. After all it did give us employment when we had nothing to do. It gave good money so that we can build and secure our future. It gave us everything that we couldn't possibly haven't imagined about working for a small indian company.

All the above points are valid and justified, but if we think deeply on it we see that although it looks like winning in the beginning we are losing on the long run.
Reasons:
Huge amount of educated and talented youth are working for a service based industry which has got nothing to do with India. We are spending all our knowledge and talent for someone else.
We are not producing anything. We are just providing service, something like, what a mechanic does.
Reasearch and Development is done by others, all we do is troubleshooting silly problems.
Customer care and Technical support jobs are jobs that needs to be done by a undergraduate person. But when I see Post graduates and Engineers woking in that sector its heartbreaking. Mainly because India is losing their talents and who knows one of the brilliant brain among them would never get recognized. Who is losing ? Its India that Losing ?

When the whole world is competing for Innovation, developing new products and for market share, being only as a service based industry will do us no good. Countires like China, are growing on both ends. But their first priority is production not service. They produce innumberble different types of goods that are exported world wide. What does india do in comparision to that, nothing. The only thing that we produce is software and that too not for our internal use, but for US or European nations. How can one country be dependent on other countries for its survival. Isn't it foolishness. I dont understand why so many educated people holding big positions in the Indian government aren't doing anything about it. When there was a sudden IT boom in the country, every tom, dick and harry started doing an engineering course. To help them out the government increased the number of engineering seats. Now its no longer needed to do hardwork to secure a seat in engineering. All one has to do is appear the entrance exam and its done. He/she gets the seat. May not be in a reputed one though but he still becomes an engineer. Students no longer aspire to take up courses in advanced mathematics, chemistry, physics because they know even if they did passout in distinction there is no future for them. So even such students are forced to follow the band wagon. What we are doing is slow poisioning ourselves.

I hope atleast this recession comes as an eye opener for the government and the students. The government should understand that we cannot be dependent on other nations for our employment. we need to create employment for ourselves. When the american markets crashed, indians started losing their jobs and new graduates aren't getting any job in the IT sector for which they have aspired for a long time. Now we are all running towards the government and bank jobs which we were not even bothered about a couple of years ago. But even here we are doing the same mistake, searching for a secure ground. Instead what we can do is realize our inherent talents, hone our skills, understand ourselves and plan for a better future. India needs more enterpreneurs. Young Indians need to come out and start bussinesses. Huge multi national giants like google were started by college graduates only. Government should also ammend their policies, only then there can be a good future for our nation. If we continue to move forward like this, it wont be long before we see our country single and backward when the whole world had moved forward.

The Pragmatic Programmer

Pragmatic Programmer

Am I a programmer? What makes a good programmer? How do I become a good programmer? These are some of the questions that keep coming up to every mind of a budding programmer who want themselves to see in the niche of the programming world. So here is something I found when I was reading the book "The Pragmatic Programmer", that might answer some of your questions.

What Makes a Pragmatic Programmer?

Each developer is unique, with individual strengths and weaknesses, preferences and dislikes. Over time, each will craft his or her own personal environment. That environment will reflect the programmer's individuality just as forcefully as his or her hobbies, clothing, or haircut. However, if you're a Pragmatic Programmer, you'll share many of the following characteristics:

Early adopter/fast adapter. You have an instinct for technologies and
techniques, and you love trying things out. When given something new, you can grasp it quickly and integrate it with the rest of your knowledge. Your confidence is born of experience. Inquisitive. You tend to ask questions. That's neat—how did you do that? Did you have problems with that library? What's this BeOS I've heard about? How are symbolic links implemented? You are a pack rat for little facts, each of which may affect some decision years from now.

Critical thinker. You rarely take things as given without first getting the facts.
When colleagues say "because that's the way it's done," or a vendor promises the solution to all your problems, you smell a challenge.

Realistic. You try to understand the underlying nature of each problem you face. This realism gives you a good feel for how difficult things are, and how long things will take. Understanding for yourself that a process should be difficult or will take a while to complete gives you the stamina to keep at it.

Jack of all trades. You try hard to be familiar with a broad range of technologies and environments, and you work to keep abreast of new developments. Although your current job may require you to be a specialist, you will always be able to move on to new areas and new challenges.

We've left the most basic characteristics until last. All Pragmatic Programmers share them. They're basic enough to state as tips:
Tip 1

Care About Your Craft
We feel that there is no point in developing software unless you care about doing it well.

Tip 2

Think! About Your Work
In order to be a Pragmatic Programmer, we're challenging you to think about what you're doing while you're doing it. This isn't a one-time audit of current practices—it's an ongoing critical appraisal of every decision you make, every day, and on every development. Never run on auto-pilot. Constantly be thinking, critiquing your work in real time. The old IBM corporate motto, THINK!, is the Pragmatic Programmer's mantra. If this sounds like hard work to you, then you're exhibiting the realistic characteristic. This is going to take up some of your valuable time—time that is probably already under tremendous pressure. The reward is a more active involvement with a job you love, a feeling of mastery over an increasing range of subjects, and pleasure in a feeling of continuous improvement. Over the long term, your time investment will be repaid as you and your team become more efficient, write code that's easier to maintain, and spend less time in meetings.

Management

Management is an Art

Management is an art and not everybody can do that. If you feel that managing is all about dictating people and yelling at them this one is for you.

A company, feeling it was time for a shakeup, hires a new CEO. This new boss is determined to rid the company of all slackers. On a tour of the facilities, the CEO notices a guy leaning on a wall. The room is full of workers and he wants to let them know he means business. The CEO walks up to the guy and asks, "And how much money do you make a week?" Undaunted the young fellow looks at him and replies, " I make $300  a week. Why?" The CEO then hands the guy $300 in cash and screams, "Here's a week's pay, now, GET OUT and don't come back."

Feeling pretty good about his first firing, the CEO looks around the room and asks "Does anyone want to tell me what that goof-off did here?"

With a sheepish grin, one of the other worker utters: "Pizza delivery guy from Domino's".

The Little Bird

The Lighter Side

Corporate Lesson III:

A little bird was flying south for the winter. It was so cold, the bird froze and fell to the ground in a large field. While it was lying there, a cow came by and dropped some dung on it. As the frozen bird lay there in the pile of cow dung, it began to realize how warm it was. The dung was actually thawing him out. He lay there all warm and happy and soon began to sing for joy. A passing cat heard the bird singing and came to investigate. Following the sound, the cat discovered the bird under the pile of cow dung and promptly dug him out and ate him.

Moral of the story:

1)     Not everyone who drops shit on you is your enemy.

2)     Not everyone who gets you out of shit is your friend.

3)     And when you’re in deep shit, keep your mouth shut. 

The Turkey And The Bull

The Lighter Side

Corporate Lesson II:

A turkey was chatting with a bull, "I would love to be able to get to the top of that tree," sighed the turkey, "but I haven't got the energy." "Well, why don't you nibble on some of my droppings?" replied the bull. "They're packed with nutrients."

The turkey pecked at a lump of dung and found that it actually gave him enough strength to reach the first branch of the tree. The next day, after eating some more dung, he reached the second branch. Finally after a fortnight, there he was proudly perched at the top of the tree. Soon he was promptly spotted by a farmer, who shot the turkey out of the tree.

Moral of the story:

Bullshit might get you to the top, but it won't keep you there.

The Crow And The Rabbit

The Lighter Side

Corporate Lesson I:

A crow was sitting on a tree doing nothing all day. A small rabbit saw the crow and asked him, "Can I also sit like you and do nothing all day long?" The crow answered: "Sure, why not". So the rabbit sat on the ground below the crow and rested. All of a sudden, a fox appeared, jumped on the rabbit and ate it.

Moral of the story:

To be sitting and doing nothing, you must be sitting very, very high up.

Interview Preparation

Interviewing is a skill; as with all skills, preparation and practice enhance the quality of that skill. Every interview is a learning experience, so learning that takes place during the preparation and actual interview process is useful for future interviews.

Initial preparation requires recent assesement of skills and interests, values, accomplishments and updating one's resume. Preparation also includes actual practice of typical and targeted interview questions.
Final preparation includes dress and appearence, location of the interview and what to expect.

General Preparation

Self assesement: "Do a lot of self assesement". Take time for reasseing current skills, talents, abilities, strengths, weakness and interests. Keep an accomplishment file: must contain all the articles, resumes, congratulatory letters, kudo's from boss, customers, etc.

Update Resume: The accomplishment file serves as a spring board for writing the resume.

Basic Questions: 

" Why are you interested in this field ? "
" Why are you interested in this company ?"
" Why are you interested in this position ? "

Some tough questions:

" Your greatest weaknesss ? "
" Your lack of experience ? "
" Your low grades ? "
" Your record of job hopping ?"

practice..... practice.... and .... practice

Review how you look and sound. Note your mannerisms, gestures, facial expressions, poise, energy, enthusiasm and body language.

Interviewing is a skill. You can only improve your style and accumen with practice.

Practice is important in reducing the fear and nervousness. Answering job interview questions correctly takes skill, practice and determination. All said, you must be lucky on that day to strike that particular job of your choice.

Resume

Resume or CV is the most important astra in the arsenal of a job seeker. Right the time one thinks of a job he starts preparing his resume. There are dedicated websites that deal with this issue. There are great personalities who say how to write a resume. They argue that one has to prepare his/her resume himself. But how many of us really work on our resume. Most of us just ask some our friends to prepare one for us. Others just go through many of the resumes available over the net and some of our friends and make up one for ourself. As far as my experience goes regarding interviews what many of us do is fine because theres no use wasting our time on preparing something which is never seen by the interviewer. Let me make it clear that what I am saying is only the Indian interview perspective, I am not aware about other countries. In India, most of the time the resumes are looked upon, only after the 2 or 3 round of interview although our resumes are collected at the beginning itself. It might be because of the huge crowd that attends the interview every time so the interviewer doesnt have time to go through the resume and 90% of the time all resumes are the same. Its a viscious circle. We donot prepare our resume because it is not seen by the interviewer. And because its all the same its not seen by the interviewer. But by the end of the 2-3 round the interviewer would have already made up his mind whether to take the candidate or not. So it only helps a little bit. I dont say "it doesn't help at all". 

Most of the time many of us are not aware about whats there in our resume. I have seen many. There has also been incidents where the interviewer has just asked to state what you have written in your profile and many candidates have failed to do that cos they have never prepared it. So they donot know what is inside. 

Here's my advice: Doesn't matter whether the interviewer looks at our resume or not, Do prepare one for yourself. It helps. I donot say it will get you a job but it will help in you knowing yourself better. The time you start preparing your resume, rather than you asking your friend to prepare the one for you who is least likely to be interested in creating a nice and beautiful one for you with all due respect to your beloved friend, you tend to understand yourself better. You start asking yourself the common questions which you feel you know the answers but donot,  like: What is your objective? What are your career goals? What is that you want to achieve? How do you plan to achieve? When do you plan to achieve it? What is that interests you? How much do you know about the field that interests you? so on.... So you start asking yourself these questions. You surf the net to get to know how others have formatted their resumes to suit their needs and many more. Other than this you learn formatting. You learn to arrange things in a proper order and streamline your ideas. You may feel it to be easy in the first but once you get to build your resume whole hearted who get to know how difficult it is and how little you know about yourself and how much more is there to learn about the subject you perceive and a lot lot more.

After all this efforts when you have your resumes hard copy in your hand you really will feel proud about yourself that you have made something. But it really hurts when something which you have prepared so dearly with so much time and effort is thrown into the shredder by the interviewing panel. But donot mind after all its your career and you have to build one for yourself. To build something beautiful, may it be anything including your career you need to work a lot and if your answer is yes why not start it from your resume itself. So start preparing your resume right now after you complete reading this cos if its not now its for never for sure.

Interview

Get u r basics right

Tring....Tring... the phone rings from an unknown number, you pick it up and some nice voice from the other side says "Hii, your resume has been shortlisted, you have an interview tomorrow. Please make sure you be at this location by 10.00 in the morning. Just bring a couple of copies of your resume, 2 PP size photographs, photocopies of your certificates and address proof. If you are lucky enough you can walk away with the offer letter tomorrow. Good Day and All the best" and he/she hangs up.

Now your head starts turning. You don't know what to do. The word ' interview tomorrow ' itself makes your stomach turn. You have sleepless nights. You keep asking yourselves (mock self tests) what questions he might ask and keep murmuring the answers. This session continues till you come face to face with the interviewer. One more tension keeps running in our mind, about the documents what he/she has asked you to bring. To your worst nightmare you find out that you do not have many of the things that you are asked to bring. So immediately you rush to the xerox shop to get our photocopies of your certificates, next you get your resume printouts and then the photographs. Having no other option for photograhs you go for the digital 2minutes photograph and that guy knows that it is urgent and really asks for good sum for less number of copies. What to do? but we go for it.

Atlast admist all the tensions you somehow gather all the necessary things and get ready. You come back home its already night and sit back to realize that your dress is not ironed. You immediately put on the iron box and somehow complete it. After all this you donot have any mood to eat but you just crunch something and go to sleep. You get up early in the morning and start murmuring the answers then get ready before time and you see that your shoes are not polished. You polish your shoes and make your hands dirty, you wash your hands making your cuffs wet. "Shit", "No problem it will dry up before I reach there", Saying this you leave hoping the best.

Now two things can happen after this: Goodluck, you get selected and you forget all the troubles you have taken, it just vanishes before your happiness.

Second, Badluck, All roses are not red.   You are disappointed, frustrated sometimes accompanied by the feeling of shame that you didn't make it through this simple interview.

But here's what I say. Stop blaming yourself. It happens.Success and Failures are two sides of a coin. Theres nothing great in a guy who attends his first interview and get a job. I would say he is unlucky rather than lucky, cos god never gave him a chance to undergo the pain, the frustration, the disappointment, the shame that you have undergone. 

But many of us curse god because of our personal reasons and question him "Why me? I am a good guy and Why does bad things happen to good people "? This is an interesting question. Very long back I happen to read a book that answers this question. The author of the book says when you ask this question, god will never answer that because you are not asking for an answer but for an argumnet and god never likes to argue? So is my question wrong? Yes. So what is the right question? The author says

Never ask "Why does bad things happen to good people?" Instead ask "What happens to good people when bad things happen to them"? and god is sure to answer that.

Now ask yourself what good has this failing in the interview done to you? What are you saying? How can failing an interview do something good. It was the best company I attended? I lost my future, my career, my salary, my pride  and the list goes on. But if you think harder there will be something that you would have gained. What is that? After all no one gains anything from failing an interview isn't? But if you think harder, more and more the interviews you fail you will see that the better and better the person you are becoming. You are becoming a very modest person. Your ego and your false pride shatters and the real good of you comes out. All you guys reading this may not agree with me for a long time, just a simple question from your side "What good is my becoming modest is going to bring me? Does it anyway solve my problem, does it decrease my frustration? No. Then what good is this modesty for me? 100% correct from your point of view. But trust me on this, its really gonna help you in the long run.

More and more modest you start becoming, you become more approachable and friendlier. More approachable and friendlier you become people around you start sharinng there personal things with you because you have also become more caring and compassionate for others. Because you know what failure is, you donot look down a failed person. You care for others feelings and that will make you a magnetic person and people will just get attracted to you. Now if you think back failing that interview didn't do that bad as you thought at first? Still donot agree. No problem one day you will. I am sure about it.

But we can't let ourselves to keep failing just to make ourselves more and more modest. That is foolishness. isn't? Yes damn right you are. So what do we do to turn our failure into success. Look first and foremost you first need to look back and see where did you go wrong? According to me you have made the mistake not at the interview but before the phone call itself. You were not prepared at all for an interview. 

So what should I do?

Here are somethings I would suggest you guys to do from my interview experience. It will cost you some money but trust me its worth it.

Buy yourself a nice good folder, a a file, a notepad and a pen.

Must have always during job search:

Always have 3-5 copies of your resume handy.

Around 3 Photocopies of certificates and address proof.

Around 10 PP size photographs

Your original certificates

Your salary slip and experience certificates incase if you are experienced

A notepad

A pen

and an orginal ID proof ( Driving Licence, Passport, Pan card etc)

Two pairs of neatly ironed shirts and trousers

Neatly polished shoes

* Nowadays it has become mandatory to carry an original ID proof to the interview location otherwise you will not be allowed to attend the interview. 

keep all the mentioned copies in a folder in a suitable place in your home. Prior the day of the interview take up what is required and put it in the file and keep it aside. Second important thing is refilling. You attend an interview and if you are not successfull then on the way back home get all the copies of what you have spent on that day and put it in the folder. I understand that  its frustrating but it will reduce your frustration later on for the next interviews. Replace your clothing with others. If you have only one pair no problem wash and it the other day itself (donot postpone) and neatly iron it. Polish your shoes and keep it. In this way you will always be prepared for the interview. 

Write down all the possible questions that you feel will be asked during the interview with your answers in the notepad. Donot just murmur your answers. The questions can be anything that you feel, the questions that you might have gathered from the net, friends or from your previous interview experience. Write and rewrite your answers. Read and re-read what you have written. Go through all your answers once every day till you feel you are comfortable with the answers. Keep making improvements to your answers. Just murmuring yourself the answers will do no good to you. You might feel you can answer it but during the interview you will definitely go wrong. And most important keep adding questions and answers in the notepad even after you are successful. It will be important to your later part of life.

Remember getting a job is just luck. If you are lucky on that particular day you end up in a job. So hold your patience till you you get your day. Dont lose faith. Something good is waiting for you. But that doesn't mean that we donot try and we donot prepare. We must keep on doing our duties. But donot push yourself too far. Everyday is not sunday and remember one more thing.... if its too dark that means twilight is just near.

All the best to all of you and thanks for taking time and reading this. Awaiting comments.